
INTAMiND
INTAMiND is founded by Sam Spencer, a qualified and registered UK Social Worker and NHS-trained BABCP accredited Psychotherapist, with over 15 years working in mental health.
I specialise in supporting women experiencing relational trauma, particularly where there is a sense of disconnection from the self and difficulty with feeling secure in relationships.
I offer trauma-informed, evidenced- based therapy; bringing together clinical expertise and lived experience to provide grounded, individualised support.
You can find out more about the INTAMiND approach here
Who is INTAMiND for?
INTAMiND supports women who feel caught in unresolved relationship patterns.
You may have recently experienced a traumatic relationship. You may find yourself making repeated unhealthy relationship choices, struggling to re-enter or maintain relationships, or recognising childhood experiences that continue to affect your relationships today.
You don't need to identify with everything below, but if some of it feels familiar, INTAMiND may be a good fit for you.
Feeling Disconnected
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Feeling alone, even when you’re with people
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Feeling separated from yourself or your emotions
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Feeling misunderstood, dismissed, or invisible
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Emotional exhaustion or isolation - wishing someone would take over
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Feeling as though you are 'in a bubble' or 'numb' as though you are watching life from the outside
Self Doubt
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Doubting yourself or your perception of reality
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Minimising your experiences or telling yourself “it wasn’t that bad"
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Difficulty making decisions or second guessing yourself
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Over-riding your initial 'gut' feelings
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Feeling you’ve let yourself or others down
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Concern about how others see you
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Comparing yourself to others and feeling “less than”
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Believing others are more accomplished or capable
Anxiety & Stress
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Always feeling on edge or unable to relax
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Authority figures feeling intimidating or unsafe
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A persistent need to pre-plan or stay in control (as a way of feeling safe)
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Persistent overthinking or over-analysing
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Struggling to focus or concentrate for periods of time
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poor appetite or over-eating
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Low mood and feeling flat or demotivated
Relationship Confusion
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Confusion about your relationships or your role within them
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Struggling to leave or fully let go of unhealthy relationships
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Feeling like a child within adult-to-adult relationships
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Feeling drawn to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent people
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Fear of repeating the same relational patterns
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Mistrusting others while still wanting connection
People Pleasing
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Giving comes easily but receiving feels difficult to sit with
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Saying no feels uncomfortable or even impossible
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Having difficulty expressing your needs or feelings
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Feeling responsible for how other people feel or respond
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Fawning or over-agreeing often at the cost of your own wellbeing
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Living in an imagined/idealised future rather than the present
Trauma | PTSD
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Flashbacks or a felt sense of being stuck in the past/ as though you are reliving the experience
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Nightmares or disrupted sleep
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Having strong physical reactions when reminded of your experience/s (such as heart pounding)
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Underlying anger or resentment that’s hard to place
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Avoiding memories, people or places that remind you of what happened
Sometimes we can also experience thoughts of self-harm or thoughts that it would be better not being here. If these thoughts become too overwhelming, you can contact the Samaritans UK here
How INTAMiND works
INTAMiND works through a three-stage framework: Regulate, Restore, Rebuild.
These stages are used flexibly throughout therapy, depending on what you need at any given time.
Initial sessions are used to build a clear understanding of your experiences, needs, and goals, which then informs how we work together. This therapeutic process takes time, and meaningful change is usually developed over several sessions rather than in a single or short-term piece of work.
You can dive deeper into the INTAMiND approach here
REGULATE
We begin by helping your nervous system find greater calm and stability.
When your system is less activated, it becomes easier to notice thoughts, emotions, and reactions without being overwhelmed by them.
This stage focuses on creating internal safety and building the capacity to pause, reflect, and respond.
RESTORE
Next, we explore how your current patterns have developed.
You begin to understand how past experiences may be shaping your relationships, emotional responses, and sense of self today.
As awareness builds, you start to reconnect with your own needs, instincts, and preferences more clearly.
REBUILD
Finally, we focus on applying this understanding in your life.
This includes developing boundaries, improving relationship choices, and strengthening your ability to act in alignment with yourself.
The emphasis is on sustainable change, confidence in your own judgment, and building a life that feels more steady and self-directed.
If you would like to explore how this approach might apply to your circumstances, you can get in touch here
What INTAMiND offers
INTAMiND offers a one-to-one space where you can be seen, heard, and understood.
We explore what you have been through with care and compassion, helping you make sense of your experiences at a pace that feels manageable.
Alongside this, I use evidence-based approaches including CBT, EMDR, and compassion-focused therapy, supported by practical tools and psychoeducation.
The focus is on helping you develop clarity, confidence, and a more stable sense of direction in your life.
If this is where you are now
I feel lost and confused
I'm so angry when I look back at my life
I'm hurt that nobody helped me when it mattered
I feel like I have wasted years
I feel invisible - like nobody understands
I'm scared that I will get my next steps wrong
I don't know how to change things
I feel stuck

My framework supports you to move towards real life change

I have clarity and direction
I understand my past and how it has shaped me
I know I matter and I can support myself
I can make decisions with confidence
I have the tools to build the life I want
I can trust my own judgement
Women often describe feeling more grounded, clearer and better able to face life.
Accredited by the BABCP and registered with Social Work England, you can verify my professional credentials [BABCP here] [SWE here]
If you feel ready to begin, you can take the next step here